Episode 33: Nate Proctor/Radical Self-Awareness

Have you ever looked at your body, looked in the mirror, and just hated it? So much so that you would go out of your way to not do things like go swimming, take off your shirt, and maybe even have sex with the lights off always. The concept of body image which in the past was something that for the most part gets attributed to women, now we can say that it affects both men and women. The policing of bodies though does happen in a higher frequency for women than it does for males, and I believe that’s one of the many reasons why we do focus a lot in respect to body image with women. But men definitely suffer through it, I know I have. Nate Proctor also has, and he took to YouTube to do what he thought was an almost impossible task, take off his shirt for everyone to see.

 

Nate did this because he knows the value of self-love, self-awareness, and how we can be more vulnerable with each other. He shares this message through his very popular Instagram account, his Youtube channel, and his articles he has written for Huffington Post.  He knows this because he too has suffered through a lot, addiction, homelessness, and depression. But he uses the lessons he has learned to share with everyone, and that’s what we’re going to do here, listen about his life, his lessons, and what we as men can take out of this.

Nate talks about two books on the podcast:

  1. Cheryl Strayed: Tiny Beautiful Things
  2. Ann Patchett – What Now?

Episode 32: Elliott Tanti and Michael Vecchio Pt 2/The Effects of Multiculturalism in Males

On today’s show, we go a little more personal, and speak directly about Elliott and Michael’s background as first-generation Canadians and how their family households made them unique participants in the line for political commentators.  How their dads set them up to be more sensitive and vulnerable males, and how they enjoy each other as male friends. Not only that we speak to the masculinity and politics of Justin Trudeau, and the way some conservatives have pegged liberal masculinity. Particularly around the word “cuck”

That and a lot more in my second part of talking to Elliott Tanti and Michael Vecchio from The Highlevel Showdown

 

You can find Michael and Elliott on Twitter @highlevelshowdown and I will put their personal accounts in the shownotes which you can find at modernmanhood.org. Also check out the Patreon page at patreon.com/modernmanpod. You can find MMP in iTunes, Stitcher, or anywhere you find awesome podcasts. If you want to be a guest of the show, send me a line @modernmanpod on Twitter and Instagram, or find me on Facebook at Modern Manhood: The Podcast.

You can find Meredith Bratland’s Migration Patterns in iTunes as well

Episode 31: Elliott Tanti and Michael Vecchio Part 1/Men and Women in Politics

I started listening to The Highlevel Showdown, a local politics show with two guys, Elliott Tanti and Michael Vecchio, from opposite sides of the political view talk about what the heck is going on in the world of politics. Now, lucky for me they also were curious about questions of manhood, and questions in how masculinity works in politics as much as I did. Even more lucky for me, they were curious about their own masculinity, and how their lives intertwined as immigrants, first generation Canadians (like they are), and most importantly as long time friends.

 

 

Now because I had a lot to ask of them and the conversation was flowing I decided to split this into two parts. The first part you’ll hear right now is Elliott, Michael, and myself talking about what was going on with the intersection of politics and masculinity which involves, yep, Donald Trump. But we also talk local politics and specifically the struggles that women have to get into politics, be heard, and the harassment they face.

Information Session 2: Men’s Mental Health with Jessica Craig

For today’s episode, I wanted to speak directly about men’s mental health and how men have problems getting the help they need either through the system that creates barriers or the society that sees them in a different light. This ties hand in hand with Men’s mental Health Awareness Day on June 13.

So for this, I wanted to speak to a front line worker here in Edmonton that deals directly with people with mental health disorders and problems. Jessica Craig has been helping kids and adults with mental health problems for years now, and is now an intake worker for a prominent place in Alberta. Lucky for me, she’s got a keen particular interest in men’s mental health, and also is a good friend of mine. I was lucky to share a bowl of pho with her, and sat down on her couch with her dog Zoe to speak about the issues that she sees in the front line.

Some of the links I have mentioned:

Happy Anniversary: Let’s Talk Fatherhood

In early May, Modern Manhood Podcast celebrated one year of life. In the last 12 months we have had an awesome collection of interviews and guests, each providing a unique spin on what they call manhood. In the first of many different clip shows, I’m going to be providing some feedback on my favorite parts of these interviews, as well as try to parse them in a way which is relevant to the study of masculinity.

Today we talk about fatherhood, with guests like Micheal Hingston, Ryan Valley, and Darren Cheverie. And what that means to yourself as a man, and to your sons and daughters.

I hope you enjoy and you can catch all these episodes in full at the modernmanhoodpodcast.com

Ep 29: Joseph Gelfer/Moving beyond “Toxic Masculinities”

Today I’m very excited to talk to Dr. Joseph Gelfer who is the founding editor of Journal of Men, Masculinities and Spirituality,  and the creator of the Future Masculinity online course and Director of Masculinity Research.

He also created the Five Stages of Masculinity model, which is used to view a person’s understandings of masculinity. This model is the basis of the Masculinity Research organization directed by Joseph Gelfer which offers ” insight into men and masculinity in three key areas: Market research for products and services, Social research for non-profit and governmental policymakers [and] People and culture development for businesses and organizations.”

The five stages, which you can find here, are briefly described as such: The stages are 1: Unconscious Masculinity

1: Unconscious Masculinity

2: Conscious Masculinity

3: Critical Masculinities

4: Multiple Masculinities

5: Beyond Masculinities

And to learn these would be an important primer to the conversation that we’ll be talking about today, which delves a lot into how we as people who talk about masculinities. We talk about the current problems of the discourse involving masculinities and how we can move beyond just talking about the opposite of “toxic masculinities” and how we as a society are stuck in stage 3 of masculinites.

Dr. Gelfer has written these books:

  • Numen, Old Men: Contemporary Masculine Spiritualities and the Problem of Patriarchy (Equinox Publishers, 2009)
  • The Best of Journal of Men, Masculinities and Spirituality (Gorgias Press, 2010)
  • The Masculinity Conspiracy (Online, 2010). This is a free ebook.
  • 2012: Decoding the Countercultural Apocalypse (Equinox Publishers, 2011)
  • Masculinities in a Global Era (Springer, 2013)

And currently, writes for many publications including The Good Men Project

The Dates for Northwestfest’s “LunchPods” which are available for anyone who has a Northwestfest pass are:

Ep 28: Ian Moore/Life in a Heavily Male Workplace

Today we’re going to talk about the law. Not the law in regards to masculinity or how it affects males, but the law profession. How it affects the notions of self-care, and how the law profession is heavily run by males, and what the effect of that dynamic can be. We’re going to talk to law student Ian Moore from Vancouver about this, plus I wanted to ask about his own life and what stories might he have over how he views his masculinity. Including an interesting story in which he gets mugged.

If you haven’t done so already, please check out The Ferdinand’s new story by Derek Nadeau titled “Coping.”  In which Derek goes through his journey into finding coping skills to take care of his own mental health, which took a drastic toll.

If you want to share your own story through Modern Manhood, please send me a line at modernmanhoodpodcast@gmail.com or find me on Twitter @modernmanpod.