Alex Putici is an entrepreneur out in Calgary who I wanted to meet because he started a program called 100 men who give a damn, a foundation in which 100 guys gave money to a different charity each year. But he’s also a guy that tries to live and breath vulnerability, if you don’t believe me check out his website putici.com which cites how many times he got fired, how many times he’s gotten audited by the CRA, and if he has ADHD (yes he does).
But through my conversation with Alex, we tease out one of his vulnerable spots, the role of the provider as a man, along with some of his excellent expertise as a businessman.
You can check out all the projects Alex has going on at putici.com or see him in person in Calgary at WorkNicer.
On the last episode of 2017, I invite an old friend of mine who wanted to share his story and progression of his understanding of feelings and emotions. And also to share the wisdom that he has gained through his journey as a business owner and a stand up comic. Either through the sexism that was created by the old boys clubs that he was a part of, or through the ethical problems he faced navigating such an environment.
The discourse online it’s becoming kind of heated. It feels like you’re either with an opinion or against that opinion. No middle ground.
Well if you look hard enough, you can find some people who are generally nuanced and generally want to see the right in the world, and not interested in debating, but engaging in topics. One of those people I found is Kevin Peterson aka The1Janitor. He’s a Youtuber with a substantial following, and one of his mantras is “Be Honest, be assertive, be kind, be open-minded. But Kevin still engages in modern topics in a fun and informative way. On this episode we talk about #MeToo and what it takes for men to be assertive and pay attention online.
It’s easy to say that the concept of martial arts and masculinity run in very close circles. I’m very curious about things like the rise of the UFC, or the portrayal of a violent form of conduct like martial arts in movies have an effect of how men view their masculinity.
Jaredd Wilson is a black belt Aikedo specialist who runs a podcast called Martial Thoughts out of Nashville Tennessee. He took on the challenge of trying to guide through my ignorance around martial arts and think about how he views his own masculinity through martial arts.
In the second part of my conversation with Jeff Perera we speak about the aspects of shame. And how shame colors the barriers of men to truly engage in the conversation of anti-violence and masculine liberation. To be able to confront those actions of our past, and to flex what Jeff calls “those empathy muscles.” In this conversation, we also get a chance to bond over one of our favorite bands: The Beastie Boys and I also get a chance to reflect on International Men’s Day.
You can find Jeff Perera on Twitter and Instagram at Jeffperera. And you can check out his work through Higher Unlearning. Clip in the episode is from the movie “The Punk Singer” about Kathleen Hanna
I reached out to Jeff Perera, activist and public speaker out in Toronto that has been working for anti-violence projects out there for at least 10 years now. We talked about reconciliation for men, and we also connected on how we came to do the work we do, along with stories about his father, safe spaces, and the tragedy of December 6th. I had such an awesome convo with Jeff, actually felt lighter afterwards to be honest, that I’m splitting this up into two! Stay tuned for part 2 next episode
You can find Jeff Perera on Twitter and Instagram at Jeffperera. In this episode we also talked a lot about Next Gen Men, an organization that are doing some big and awesome things down in Calgary and in Toronto. You can find them at nextgenmen.ca
When the media, schools, and society at large speak the issues of body image and how it affects your self-esteem, we usually hear about from a female lens. We don’t think of this as a male issue, but I can tell you honestly that the majority of men face body issue problems. And I think men of all sexual orientation have a specific relationship with their penis.
UK artist and photographer, Laura Dodsworth started a project to help women deal with body issues called Bare Reality in which she invited 100 women to bare their breasts for a photo book, and then have them share their stories around body image. She then asked, why can’t I do this for men? So she created Manhood: A Bare Reality in which she asked 100 men to bare their penises (NSFW pic) (Picture is Copyright of Laura Dodsworth). This was all in an effort to normalize the way we look at penises, and especially for men to show us a real version of what a penis looks like. We had an awesome chat about the process and the privilage of asking 100 men about their penis.
You can order Manhood: The Bare Reality from Amazon in Canada right now and if you get a chance take a look at this blog post about the process that Laura has gone into to making this book. Along with all the press she has done for the project.