Modern Manhood

If you remember last week, we spoke to performance coach David Ogle. I wanted to splice his conversation in two just because I feel, just like his company’s namesake, it’s good in doses. In the first half we talked about what he thought about being a man in a place that was “made for women,” and in this half I wanted to tease out some theories with him, one specifically about the roles of coaches as a form of therapy for men. David also tells us about his life changing moment, a moment he calls his “ok we’re turning a corner here” moment. And he also quotes some Disney to give us his end of show advice. Stick around for it.

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I wrote this piece for my little daily blog on Medium about life coaches and how I found them to be, kind of disingenuous. You know, giving you advice on what’s going on, and pretending to be nice so they can get money from you.  But I was surprised that I was asked to speak to David Ogle, who is a performance coach from Dose Coaching. He mentioned that he was curious about masculinity and how it shapes us, and was super keen to explore this with me. So I checked him out, and what I found was fascinating. We chatted for a while, and so for the sake of me not cutting his story, I’m going to split this into two parts. So this is part 1 with my conversation with David Ogle.

Dose Coaching and it’s Blog can be found here, also you should subscribe to their newsletter

You can find the PodSummit info here

Led by Samantha Nzessi and Remoy Philip the first, MASKulinity podcast is a conversation about their lives and how masculinity was shaping it, from the female side and from the internal male side. I had a chance to talk to both Samantha and Remoy about the genesis of their show, the way masculinity is performed in their lives, and the work of media around our premises.

Samantha and Remoy, both from Brooklyn, New York are in the middle of their second season, and they started off with a bang, bringing up scholar and savant Michael Kimmel from the Center for the Study of Men and Masculinities from Stony Brook University. You can also check out Remoy’s blog here to find out about his interviews that I mention on the show

• Podsummit is coming to Edmonton on May 5th, you can get your tickets here at podsummit.com
• Edmonton Community Foundation’s Well Endowed Podcast is about International Women’s Day, which you can listen to here.

Gianmarco Visconti is a feminist gay young Muslim poet who is one of the host and producers of the feminist talk radio Adament Eve. And I asked him from a recommendation to come to Modern Manhood to talk about his stories of his wrestling identity of being Muslim, to his life as a gay man, and how his name represents a small mask but something that he has embraced. Listening back to this episode, I kept coming back to this phrase of multiple identities, and how we can inhabit them, and also to think about what life is like for a gay Muslim, which in itself sounds like rebellion in a homophobic and islamophobic society.

If you want to check out Adament Eve, it’s airing on CJSR 88.5 in Edmonton on Fridays from 5:30pm to 6pm. If you want to go to see Doug Hoyer on March 17th, use the code APNROCKS to get 5 dollars off.

It’s our 50th episode of Modern Manhood! What an occasion! We have a special announcement which you can find out more through my blog post on Medium, basically Modern Manhood will be Modern Manhood Presented by Next Gen Men. So to give you a breadth of what NextGenMen are about, you’re going to hear one of their founders, Jake Stika, talk about the genesis of NGM. Jake will also talk about the work that they do, what the future looks like for them, feminism and it’s relation with men. We also sneak in some basketball talk in there.

You can also find anything to do with NextGenMen at nextgenmen.ca  including Modern Manhood. Buy some socks! They are pretty sweet.

Today we’re joined by one of my good friends, Lyndsay Chaban. We met almost 13 years ago, while working together at a big retail chain, both of us in customer service position, helping people with returns and complains. And I think, a theory of mine, in some weird way that has subconsciously informed us into the paths that she took. Working as a psychologist that is working with “Men’s Issues.” So I wanted to reconvene and chat with Lyndsay as to why she chose the path she took, and also, most importantly to dole out some great advice for men in regards to relationships, feelings, and anger. All of these informed from her own practice.

If you need to seek counselling with someone who deals with men as a specification, you can check out Lyndsay at Summit Counselling Services,

Bryony Cole is leading the way, along with the many women of sex tech, in trying to understand what could be the healthy, and amazing future of sex, and how technology can be used to provide empathy, compassion, love, and positive interaction. She also cares a lot about how men are using these new technologies, and how pornography is being used in the day to day world.

We got to chatting about dating apps, pornography, VR, sex education, among many other things.

Check out the Future of Sex podcast anywhere you find good podcasts.

If you’re in Australia, on March 23-25 there will be a Hackathon where you can help design, create and build the Future of Sex! You can find all that information if you go to futureofsex.org/hackathon.